I really enjoyed your video about March’s intention: honor. I’m taking your advice and doing my best to honor myself. I feel like I can be really hard on myself. One of my greatest character defects is perfectionism, which is essential to the nature of my work (fine jewelry creation), but also can be my greatest personal challenge. I absolutely hate making mistakes and beat myself up when I do. Additionally, I find myself focusing unrealistic expectations upon others. Could you please let me know what tool you suggest to amplify compassion? I want to learn how to be kinder to myself and give others the necessary space to be human, perfectly imperfect.
Jane S., Boulder, CO
Thank you so much for your kind email. I’ve been dealing with perfectionism myself and one of my mentors once said, “Better done than perfect!” It shocked me at first, but then at the same time it freed me up. I’ve gotten more done since then and have much more tolerance towards my mistakes and others. After all, mistakes are just learning experiences. Please do your best to learn from them so you don’t have to make the same mistakes again as there are so many more we can make! Also remember: what you resist persists! Embrace your perfectionism and utilize where it fits (for example, when you make jewelry), but when you work on other projects try to be more forgiving. Embrace and enjoy imperfection and incorporate more humor, love for yourself and your need to have it all perfect. It takes the heaviness out of it.
If you are looking for a Light-Life Tool to support your process, I would take the Lost Cubit Lotus Pendant either in 24K gold plated or silver plated, lacquered. They can be programmed. Hold the tool in your hand and program it with something like. “Give me more compassion today!” or “Let me be kind to myself today.” I would recommend not to put more than one or two programs in the tool per day.
Last but not least, please stop judging yourself. Embrace yourself and know it’s all okay. When we are judging ourselves or others we get it all back even stronger than we sent out. I have a strong suspicion that judgement hasn’t had a positive impact in your life. Try setting your intention towards honor, but more importantly to kindness, for yourself and others.
Please let me know how the Lost Cubit Lotus Pendant is working for you. Sending unconditional love to you and those around you.
I had an extremely difficult childhood marked by significant trauma. I’m going to a tremendous amount of work to heal and grow. For a lot of time I tried to shove my pain underneath a rug, but I’m learning the hard way that this just seems to amplify the source and my anger comes out sideways. I’ve started doing work in a program called ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), started working with an EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapist and started my journey with body work. Most research studies show that trauma actually lives in the body and talk therapy is helpful, but won’t help you release the pain. I’m having fun exploring the different modalities: tapping, watsu, float tanks and healing touch. I’m also learning how to play! Trampoline park here I come!
Could you please recommend several tools that will support my healing practices? I absolutely adore the Light-Life Tools and I’d love your expertise on what will help with the traumatic release.
Susan F., Des Moines, IL
I am so sorry to hear about your childhood. I applaud you for taking action to completely heal and look at all the ‘stuff’. It takes a lot of courage to do that. I’m thrilled you are working with seasoned professionals. Trauma work is intense and it’s important to work with professionals who know how to help you in a safe, gentle and compassionate way.
When I was reading your message I immediately thought of our Seed of Life unit. I remember when Slim and I did a workshop in Germany, we used the Seed of Life and placed it on the solar plexus of women who had traumatic experiences in their lives. We also placed rings on other places on their body. It was amazing to see how their faces changed once they released all this trauma. Having said that, if you want to try this, make sure you have a friend around who can support you in whatever may come up for you. You could also wear one of our silver plated Sacred Cubit Lotus Pendants. This has helped a lot with grieving processes and it sounds like this is part of what you’re going through as well.
I am wishing you strength to go through your healing process. Please let me know how you’re doing and how the tools are supporting you.
Although I’m extremely excited that spring is around the corner, I find that the change in seasons is taking a toll on my respiratory tract. Between catching colds and my allergies I feel like I’m always stuffed up! What Light-Life Tools do you use when you aren’t feeling that well? Do you have any essential oils that you recommend?
Charles K., Pittsburgh, PA
What comes first to mind is our Nose Mask. It has helped many people with allergies throughout the season. When you don’t need to fight off allergies, you can use it as massage tool. It feels great and – btw – one of our customers came up with this idea. She bought 20 at a time to give to her clients because it helped so much releasing tension in the body.
If you have a Harmonizer you put a few drops of essential oils on a Q-Tip and put in your Harmonizer. Make sure you’re not allergic to any of them. I was told that Eucalyptus removes over 90% of bacteria in a room. Thyme, Peppermint and Rosemary may also be good choices. Of course you can also use those oils in a steam bath. Please again, make sure you’re not allergic to those.
I hope those ideas help. Wishing you a free nose and an enjoyable spring time!